It is important for all parents going through Family Court to get some legal advice early on in the process so as you can understand what to expect, what your rights are and how to access support. This page has been put together to give some tips for those who cannot afford a lawyer or wish to represent themselves (Please Note – this page is not legal advice and is not intended to replace any legal advice you may have received)
Going to family court without a solicitor is one of the most stressful experiences a parent can face. But it’s far more common than you might think — every month, thousands of people across England and Wales appear in court as what’s known as a litigant in person.
“You have a legal right to represent yourself. With the right preparation, the right attitude, and the right support, you can put your case across clearly and confidently.”
This short film from Advicenow — the same organisation used by Citizens Advice — covers the questions parents most often worry about and shows simple, practical techniques for presenting yourself well in the courtroom. It’s specifically made for England and Wales and remains fully current.
Below, we’ve added some additional context and resources to help you prepare.
Go to the front desk or usher and identify yourself. Let them know you’re unrepresented. You’ll be asked to wait — district judges can have 10–12 cases listed at once, so expect a wait even at your listed time.
If the other side has a solicitor, they may come over to introduce themselves or make settlement proposals. Listen, take notes, and don’t feel pressured. Ask for a few minutes to consider anything they say.
Stand when the judge enters. Switch off your phone. Raise your hand if you wish to speak. Address the judge respectfully and stick to the relevant facts. Judges are generally patient with litigants in person.
Make sure you understand any orders or directions made. If you’re unsure, ask the judge or clerk to clarify. Orders are usually confirmed in writing — keep a copy in your file.
Remote hearings: Many family court hearings are now held by video or telephone. If your hearing is remote, confirm your contact details with the court and test any video link you’re sent in advance. If you have technology or privacy concerns, notify the court as early as possible.
This booklet prepared by the Courts is a helpful guide for anyone representing themselves in the Family Court
Tip 01
Be clear in your own mind about the specific outcome you want before you set foot in the courtroom. Judges respond best to concise, focused requests — not general complaints.
Tip 02
Gather all relevant evidence, correspondence, and statements. Keep them organised in a folder in date order. The court may ask for copies, so bring at least three sets.
Tip 03
In most family court hearings, address the judge as “Your Honour.” Magistrates and district judges are addressed as “Sir” or “Madam.” When in doubt, ask the usher.
Tip 04
Direct all of your remarks to the judge, not your ex-partner or their solicitor. Stay calm, speak slowly, and focus on facts rather than feelings or past grievances.
Tip 05
Arrive well before your listed time. Tell the usher who you are, which case you’re in, and that you’re a litigant in person. Find a consultation room if you can.
Tip 06
You can bring a McKenzie Friend — a non-lawyer who can sit beside you, take notes, and quietly ass
Free, confidential support before, during, and after court hearings — available at many courts across England and Wales.
supportthroughcourt.org →Plain-English guides on family law, court procedures, and your rights in England and Wales.
advicenow.org.uk →Free advice on legal rights, completing court forms, and what to expect in family proceedings.
citizensadvice.org.uk →Connects litigants in person with barristers who volunteer to give free legal advice or representation at hearings.
weareadvocate.org.uk →Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service — relevant to proceedings involving children’s arrangements.
cafcass.gov.uk →If you are going to court for a Child Arrangements Order, or if you need legal advice about contact, residence, or domestic abuse, it helps to have a family solicitor on your side.
Search the Law Society’s official directory to find accredited family law solicitors in your area across England and Wales.
Our co-parenting education programs are designed to help parents in England and Wales reduce conflict, improve communication, and focus on what matters most — their children.
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